Breaking up is really very easy once you get the right mindset.
- Always put yourself first.
- Don’t care what the other person thinks about you or feels about you.
- Don’t catch feelings after you have broken up.
- When it is time to break up, break up.
- When you detect some red flags and they argue with you, break up.
- If your soon-to-be-ex is acting mean, not kind and not friendly, just say I think we should break up.
- If they act emotional at first, know that they will get over it.
- Be sure to look at for their feelings and try not to let it hurt them too much, in no way be angry at them or blame them for anything.
- Love yourself.
- Love the empty spaces in time that you will have, when you no longer receive phone calls, texts, inboxes, comments from your soon-to-be-ex
- Get out there in the world and find someone new.
Breaking up is just a matter of believing in what you are feeling. Forget what you believed when you first met the person, that you would be together forever. Once you have realized the relationship is less than perfect, that is when you should do it.
Do not make your feelings drag behind you, unattended. Pause and talk to the person about what is bothering you that they have made you feel.
When you do this, do not let them interrupt or confuse you. Write down whatever it is that bothers you that they have made you feel.
Find a way to express it.
You deserve better. You deserve to be treated better than you are by the people who say they love you.
Be wary of any lover who wants to be your lover. Some lovers can be dangerous. Such lovers could hurt your feelings after you break up. If you have to persist through a lover’s resistance to your charms, that can be an indicator that this is a better lover than one who just gives it up to you no questions asked, no refusals.
If they get mad that you are bothering them, by all means stop. But if there is a slight note of desire mingled with the rejection, come back later.
If the lover stops answering questions and does not express things well verbally or in written language, then by all means move on.
If the lover does not like the same music as you, then by all means move on.
If the lover detests things about you that you are proud of, then move on.